In this chapter Bhagavan Narayan muni narrates about kama (lust), its defects and the ways to overcome kama (lust).
In this chapter Bhagavan Narayan muni narrates about kama (lust), its defects and the ways to overcome kama (lust).
Nishkami Vartman of Tyagi Sadhu.
Shri Narayan muni said:-
‘O sage, as the ocean is the source of all waters, so is lust which is the home of all misdeeds, sins and defects. 1.
Those men who are learned, well-versed in science and philosophy, who claim to have to reached the state of Brahman, feel when captured by sexual desires. They think that the pleasure, satisfaction and happiness of that desire is greater than that of Brahma Sukha (extreme joy and happiness) and are hypocrites. 2.
Even the scholars, the knowledgeable people, fall victim to lust and wish to be in the company of women. They try to enjoy by pretending devotion. 3.
Women also possessed by lust try to enjoy in the company of men assuming someone as Lord Krishna, serving him with lustful love. 4.
Teacher (Guru) and student (Shishya) also deceive each other to enjoy the pleasure, happiness and joy of lust. 5.
People possessed by extreme lust enjoy the happiness of lust in contact with the teacher’s wife; or own daughter. 6.
Men, because of uncontrollable desires, even keep sexual relations with widows; Brahmins and high-caste men keep sexual relations with low-caste women or Muslim women. 7.
Lust and sexual urge even leads to homo-sexuality or even try to have intercourse with animals. 8.
Great sacrificer, also behaving like monkeys, act passionately and timidly , trying to satisfy their uncontrollable sexual urge by masturbation. 9.
Due to lustful immorality there is mix breed, intermixture among four Varnas and it leads to the downfall of religion. 10.
So also, even husbands and fathers kill women in the heat of extreme lustful behavior. A women who is supposed to be misfit for sexual pleasure, is killed due to lust. 11.
Uncontrollable lustful behavior leads a man get addicted to drinking wine, liquor, eat non-vegetarian food and a victim to various sins. 12.
A man becomes hot-tempered, egoistic, blunt, adamant, envious and full of hatred. He loses sense, shame, turns disgraceful and brutal, and gets dishonored due to lustful behavior. He loses memory, intelligence and suffers from serious diseases only because of uncontrollable sexual desires. 13-14.
A man has to bear various severe punishments, tortures in hell after death. During his life, a man loses his conscience, intelligence and moral values repeatedly. 15.
Remedies to defeat Kam
These are all the ill-effects of lust and uncontrollable sexual urge. Now I’ll narrate how to keep away from them. 16.
Lust, uncontrollable sexual urge is the main and important enemy of human beings, young men and women. It pains, tortures throughout life, it should be won over by following good conduct, moral rules of religion. 17.
A man must observe various proper rules of behavior, celibacy during four months (Chaturmasa) every year. 18.
Observance of Dharana and Parana should be followed in Chaturmansa four months in rainy season, according to religious instructions and rituals. 19.
One should observe Chandrayana and paraka according to time and place and observe celibacy to uproot lustful behavior. Kruchhra and such others should be strictly observed. 20.
Extreme desire to fulfill lust only ends due to strict observation of controlled wishes of having contact with women. So a man must observe. 21.
It will also be possible to conquer the lust staying in the company of pious saintly men who have successfully conquered their wishes. 22.
A woman with whom a man wishes to enjoy due to lust is just a stock of bones, muscles, flesh, blood, pit, marrow and feces. 23
A man lustfully strives to enjoy such women due to his desire. 24
Due to such lustful behavior, a man has to bear ugly stay in hell and gets his next birth of dogs, pigs or swines or such dirty animals. 25.
Thus knowing and considering all these results, a man must keep himself in the company of the pious, saints and good tempered men if he wants emancipation from worldly worries, pains and temptations of short-living wishes. 26 -27.
A man must avoid hearing anything about women; he must not speak to them and should try to remain in the company of pious, saintly men. 28.
A man must never stare at women, should not talk secret things with them. He should strictly keep away from women. 29.
A man must never make an attempt to try to get women; he should never touch a woman even if it is an image of wood. 30.
It is better to die in fire, or to sink in water, or jump into a well or eat poison than to have intercourse with a woman. 31.
A man who wishes liberation must never look, even by accident, at the private parts of a woman. He must never touch any woman’s costumes or robes. 32.
But if the costume, new or washed and dried is touched by a man, there is no sin or misdeed in it. 33.
A man must not sit in front of a woman facing towards her. He must not draw a woman’s picture or see one. 34.
He must keep a bow’s distance between a woman and himself while walking in the street. If at all, during the festival of Hari, it would be hard to maintain a bow’s distance with too many people, then he must try not to touch women. 35.
While in temple, if he happens to come in contact with a woman or while taking alms from a woman, he should strictly avoid her touch. 36.
A man must never go to work where women are working. A man clothed in the costumes of a woman must also be avoided. 37.
A man must never converse with a woman. Similarly, he must not praise her complexion beauty, and her virtues. He must never blame her for her defects. 38.
A man must never perform a kirtans or praise Lord Vishnu in kirtans while addressing women or facing them. He should also avoid narrating stories of the Lord to women. 39.
If a woman worships a ‘Saligrama’, a man must avoid having the worship of the Saligrama. 40.
A man who is a renouncer must never enter a Grahastha’s house except asking for alms or except any occasional meeting. Also, he must never go alone to such places. 41.
A man who wishes liberation must never break the vow of celibacy in any case even if it comes to end his life. He should not obey even his teacher if at all he (the teacher) advises him to break it. 42.
He should never enter a house where women are there. He must not allow any woman to enter his house. He should never ask any woman to bring food for him. 43.
He must carry out the work of sweeping, washing and cleaning his house by himself and not employ any woman to do this work. 44.
A place where women have trodden before should be washed and cleaned first, then only he should stay there. 45.
Liberation-seekers should not engage themselves in lustful play of their private organs and water. They must also avoid even remote contacts with those who are fond of their wives and fond of remaining in the company of men. 46.
The contact of women and uxorious men should be avoided as it leads to bondage. As such contacts become regular, they tend to get repeated in other situations. 47.
Such contacts with women and uxorious men, even if prosperous, end in destroying a liberation-seeker’s attitude. 48.
Celibacy, non-violence, overcoming ambition, purity, forgiveness and mercy and truth, are the main virtues of a man. 49.
All the virtues mentioned above come to an end if a liberationseeker (Mumuksu) comes in contact with a woman. So he must certainly avoid keeping contact with women. 50.
Devotion in Vishnu and following the rules mentioned above makes a renouncer win the invincible lust and beget happiness in the end. 51.
In the past, Yayati and other kings attained extreme happiness by conquering lust. 52.
Now (I will tell you) about the rituals to get atonement for misdeeds or sins of becoming a victim to lust. 53.
Method of expiation for regressing from vow.
If at all anyone commits a mistake of not observing the rules mentioned above, he must atone for it from his well-wishers. 54.
If a man hears stories of women unknowingly or accidentally or happens to see women moving in their places; if he stares at a woman or responds at her glance; if he makes a conversation with a woman or thinks lustfully about her; if he touches the costumes of women or can’t abide by the rule of keeping a distance of a bow between himself and a woman, if he glances at the private parts of a woman, if he touches a woman’s- image, then he should repeat the name of Lord Vishnu constantly and observe a total fast for a day. He should do it for each misdeed, mistake separately. 54 -59
If he accidentally or unknowing watches, glances, happens to see the intercourse of animals or birds, he should observe a fast for a complete day. 60.
A man who has been conferred upon knowledge and has detachment from worldly things, coming in contact with women while accepting alms, writing books or asking then something about general things, things related to accepting clothes or asking a woman about God, there is no fault. 61 - 63.
He must take a holy bath and repeat the eight letter mantra- three times. He must face to the north and pray to God- Vishnu- Narayan. 64.
He should offer his prostrations to Nar-Narayan facing the north. Doing this , he is certainly released of his defect. 65.
He must not speak to a woman in the absence of any witness, if he does so, he must atone for it. 66.
If occasionally, he speaks to a woman more than necessary, he must take a holy bath and remember Shri Harirepeatedly for one day. 67.
If he discharges his semen by masturbation, he must observe fast for four days. 68.
If his semen is discharged in dream in sleep, he should take a holy bath next morning and observe fast for a whole day. 69.
While moving for begging alms, while going through towns, while going for bathing to the river or for fetching water, if one sees women, he must observe fast for a day. But there is no harm if he happens to see them while going to toilet. 70 -71.
If a renouncer inevitably has to be with a woman in a vehicle on a journey, he should observe fast for three days. 72.
If a renouncer loses his celibacy due to uncontrollable lust this is the atonement for his misdeed. 73.
The atonement for such a serious break in celibacy is impossible to follow in this Kaliyug. The atonement as per religion is very strict but such a man should observe atonement for one year continuously. 74.
He must observe a fast for a day; the next day, he should take saktu- barley without salt at day and take nothing during night time. 75.
If it is not possible to drink barley soup without salt, he should only have two types of food with salt. 76.
If he is suffering from any disease, or is in calamity, he should eat food without salt in it. 77.
If he is suffering severely from any disease, he should repeat the eight word mantra a thousand times in a day. 78.
If it is not possible to do this for a year, he should do it for nine months or for six months. If it is not possible for six months, he should observe for three months which would make him free. 79.
This Vrata of living in solitude cleans and wipes out his body and mind. It is so sacred. 80.
If it is not possible, then he should go on a pilgrimage to Badrinath, which will definitely wipe out his misdeeds. 81.
Alternatively, he must observe the all-purifying Chandrayana vrata for a month. That will wipe out all his sins. 82.
To wipe out this sin, if the Chandrayana is not understood, he must chant the four letter ‘Narayan’ mantra for fifty thousand times for one year or alternately do 500 mala-Japa of the mantra every day. 83.
Observing speechlessness, he should purify himself, sitting on a seat firmly and repeating the word ‘Narayan’ with full devotion fifty thousand times in the morning. 84.
In this way, he should have atonement in the presence of pious saints which will purify him and he will be free from sins. He must not disclose it to anyone. 85.
If a man commits a misdeed of intercourse with men or animals he should observe ‘Taptakruchhra’ vrata to purify himself. The Taptakruchhra vrat is such that; 86.
If a renouncer commits sin and doesn’t take atonement, he leaves his circle of saintly people and goes to low caste. His people will discard him and expel him from their caste. 87.
‘O sage, I have narrated the defects of lust (Kama) and the rules to wipe out the sin. Now I’ll narrate the defects of “rasa’ and the rules to wipe them out. 88.
Thus ends the sixty-third chapter entitled ‘Narration of the defects of lust (Kam) and prescriptions for overcoming it’ in the fourth Prakaran of Satsangijivan, the life story of Lord Narayan, also titled as ‘Dharmashastra’ (the rules of the code of conduct). 63
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